BeautifulPeople.com Showed the Ugly Side of “Beauty”

Many have take issue with the dating site Beautifulpeople.com for kicking out 5000 of its members simply because they had put on a few extra pounds over the holidays. And as if this is not ugly enough by itself, the owner of this site had the audacity to support this ugly action by uttering even uglier words.

This guy by the name Robert Hintze was quoted as saying, ""Letting fatties roam the site is a direct threat to our business model". Who said that "fatties" can't be beautiful? And whose standard of beauty is this nut referring to? But perhaps Mr. Hintze is not so much a nut as he is an astute business person: the site has been getting lots of free publicity. I'm pretty sure there many knocking on the door in attempt to belong in this exclusive club (not everybody who thinks they are beautiful gets accepted).

The concept of a beautiful person (especially the female of the species) as one whose ribs like to announce their presence has long been propagated by the media, advertising and of course Hollywood. But it is not held by everyone, not even every community.

In many communities, a beautiful woman is considered to one with a little more flesh over her bones. I know a few quite handsome guys who just love big women. And I'm sure there are many women out there who like big guys (and not necessarily in terms of muscle).

Who said fat or big can't also be beautiful? The terms BBW (acronym for Big and Beautiful Woman/Women) and BHM (for Big Handsome Men) were coined for a reason. And by the way, there are dating sites dedicated to these two groups of people.

What really irks me, aside from the action of BeautifulPeople.com and the ugly (mugly may be a better word but it's not in the dictionary) words of the owner is the superficiality of both the site and its members.

From what I understand, members are approved by other active members of BeautifulPeople.com (I wonder who picked the first batch when the site started?). 4 out of 5 people get rejected.

That one would even consider joining such a site speaks to the superficiality of it all. You have to be really obsessed with your own outer looks to try to get in such a site. That you seek others of the same caliber says a lot about the quality what lies inside you, as well as every member or aspiring member of such a dating site.

As Confucius once said, "Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it". I would like to substitute one word and say everybody has beauty, but not everyone sees it.

Now let's turn the tables for an instance and ask; were the members that were kicked out at one time responsible for rejecting a member or two at one time or other? How does it feel to be wearing the ugly shoe now?

You might know some physically attractive people out there who are also obnoxious. You might also know that you don't like them that much. I won't name names, but some super models are known to excel in the specialty, if I may call it that, of obnoxiousness and sheer pomposity.

The biggest and best reason for having a body weight that is not excessive is not "beauty" per se. It is health. You want to avoid things like elevated blood pressure, clogged arteries and the like. But putting on a few pounds does not make you less beautiful. Oprah has at times gained a few pounds but she was still beautiful in my eyes.

The amazing thing is how fast the site acted to kick out the 5000 members. Did all of them post new photos right after the holiday season? Is it a requirements member posts new photos periodically or after the holidays?

"Think of all the beauty that's still left in and around you, and be happy." - Confucius