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Dating Expert On What Women Find Attractive In Men

Dawg — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 21:50:13 +0000

Dating Expert's Tips For Meeting Women

It has always puzzled me. As a guy, I have seen stunningly beautiful women fall for plain-looking guys. I've always sought to find out what women find attractive in men. When I asked any of my fellow men about this I would always get the same answer; that I should not even try to understand women. Of course this did not help at all.

Yet, there seemed to be something some guys knew that I didn't. I was not seeking to understand women per se, but just enough to for them to let me get… well, you know the rest. I recently came across a post that talks about what women find attractive and how you can improve your chances (presuming you are a man of course) of catching a fine lady.

Here’s the first tip Xuma shares in his report on how to get women: there is no logic to what attracts one person to another.
“It is ingrained in a person by socialization and genetics,” he explains. “However, men can increase a woman’s attraction to them. Men can actually generate that chemistry, which is a physical and emotional draw and connection.”
And men don’t have to be naturally good looking to do it, Xuma says.
“Although looks may spark that first interest, really attractive men have to actually work harder because women have a guard up against men they perceive as “players.” Good-looking men have to jump more hurdles to establish trust. An average looking man can gain trust a little easier by sneaking in under the radar, so to speak.”
In his new report revealing how to attract women, Xuma also teaches men that one simple factor and adopting one simple attitude can spark attraction.
“In my opinion there is one factor, one behavior that men can emulate and learn that will increase or generate a woman’s attraction to them,” he says. “That behavior is when men show a woman that they are not intimidated by anyone else, including her.”
Men need to remember that what matters the most when they want to meet women is how much attraction women feel for them. It’s a man’s job to generate that attraction and to generate enough interest. Then it is the man’s job to maintain that attraction and interest for the long run, Xuma says in his new report.
Xuma has spent years teaching hundreds of men flirting tips for guys and has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years. He has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. He’s the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has also been recognized for his work sharing dating advice for guys and helps them learn how to meet women. See original post

Something that caught my eye in the above post, besides what women find attractive, is the ability to keep the lady beyond day one. You see, sometimes the issue is not getting the girl interested in the first place. The real issue is keeping her interested. This is where many of us fail.

Dating Conversation Tips: How To Talk To A Girl Video

Dawg — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 20:53:30 +0000

Tips On How To Talk To Girls (Video)

A peacock displays his feathers to attract a mate. Male Mexican mollies grow mustaches to attract mates. The point? It’s not easy being male in virtually any species. We have to work for “it”. We don’t choose (though we might think we do), we get chosen. Guys with dating conversation skills do have an advantage. That’s why some not-so-good-looking guys get hot girls. Here’s a video on how to talk to a girl.

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At Last, Short Men Dating Tips

Dawg — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 20:31:01 +0000

Short Men Dating Tips To Make You Stand Above Taller Guys

At 5 feet and 8 inches, I do not "qualify" as tall. Some would even call me short though I'm only 4 inches shy of the, apparently, qualifying minimum height of 6 feet to be considered tall. So while I do not fall in the category of short guys per se, I can relate to the pain of being dismissed by some hot chicks merely on grounds of not being tall. That's why I was glad to come across a very well-written post offering short men dating tips.

I must say, I'm a little jealous. Why? Because this is an article I had thought of writing myself but never go to it. I won't make excuses, I just got lazy. Someone beat me to the punch. But I won't complain as she did a great job and offers a female's viewpoint which is even better (hey, I'm a guy so I'm really no authority on this).

Short Men Dating Tips
Because of this, shorter men have to work extra hard to impress the ladies. And many of them do it with aplomb. For example, Pete Wentz, Nicolas Sarkozy and Tom Cruise may be slight, but they’re all adept at reeling in the ladies.
But it’s just the rich and famous men who can sidestep the height issue. Case in point, one of my girlfriends, we’ll call her Carly, actually lowered her normal height requirement of at least 5’10 to go out with a guy who was 5’7. “His body was ripped,” she remembers. “When he wrapped his arms around me, I felt just as feminine as I would have with a taller guy.”
The moral of the story? Taller guys could take a cue from their shorter brethren. If you’ve ever wondered why dream girl is talking to someone half your height, it’s time to get a clue. Just because you’re tall, doesn’t mean you can rest on your laurels. So what can taller men learn from the shorties? Read on and find out. See the full article

Reminds me of a story I read somewhere (I forget where) about girls talking about the best sex they ever had. One girl talked about this guy who had made her feel as though he had touched every part of her body. Then she noticed something.

She noticed that the man had stretchmarks on some parts of his body. He explained that he used to be fat. That’s when she got it: he had to be good in bed. His skills were acquired, simply because he had to get over a physical disadvantage. It's about working with what we have. Making our weaknesses our strengths or compensating for what we don't have.

It you are, like me, that is, not that vertically endowed you can work around it. Of course there are girls who would never look beyond the inches (no pun intended) but there are many more who will. Read the short men dating tips and work at bringing out the best of you in as many aspects as you can. Sooner than later you will be standing above the (physically) taller men.

Romance Suggestions: Effortless Strategies For Males

Contributor — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 12:00:29 +0000

If you are a man, then you know that meeting and dating women is an awkward practice. It really shouldn't be though. It needs to be enjoyable, and it needs to be straightforward--having a small information under your hat, it will be. The secret, however, would be to not learn from trial and error simply because this may be a brutal procedure. Rather, it's very best to learn from men who have gone prior you. Males who've already learned the ropes and have some information that they can pass on.

So needless to say, the very first step in acquiring the girl's phone number and for all too numerous men, this alone is really a challenging approach. Once again though, it need not be, just as long as you take the proper approach. Now, what you might find surprising is that if carried out right, women tend to respond much better to commands instead of requests. So what's worked for me in the past is to just ask a woman if she has a pen plus a tiny piece of paper. Soon after she produces, it just tell her to write her number down. Works like a charm.

Then soon after you have got the number, yet another trick that I like to do that has worked for me in the past is always to sit and speak to her and take her on an "imaginary pretend date". Sounds confusing? It is very simple. You merely direct the conversation towards and about what you plan on performing if you do call them, and take them out on a date. It works much better on some than on other people, but when you do this properly, by the time you are through talking to them, they'll in a way really feel as if you have already been on a date and in turn will likely be much more willing to come home with you.

Now anytime any person asks me where the very best location to take a girl on a date is, I usually have one response, and that's straight home to your place. You'd be surprised just how numerous girls will go for it too in case you only have what it takes to pull it off. Right after you pick her up to take her out, merely tell you have to stop by your place for a minute to pick something up. Tell her you left your wallet there, so you simply have to do it. Then when you get there, just invite her in for a drink.

Now along similar lines, whilst it doesn't get them into your house, it is a place you could take them that helps to get them thinking about getting to your home. Take her by the supermarket for little grocery shopping because it triggers thoughts of "domesticity" in their brain. This in turn causes them to see you much more as a potential mate than just a man they're out on a date with. Also, whilst you're there, it's a chance to pick up something to take over your place to prepare "together".

Through it all, it's important not to lose track of one very critical truth, and that is certainly that the real reason for a date is to have sex with a female. Of course you may have some type of relationship in mind as well, and so may she. Even so, without sex, there will be no real relationship. So why not work to simply get the sex over with as quickly as possible, so you get on the talking about more important matters.

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5 Tips to Find Singles for Marriage Online

Dawg — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 12:00:00 +0000

Let’s face it; dating at the best of times can be a scary proposition. This is why these days online dating is a great way to find singles for marriage. So what can you do to make your profile, your online you, stand out? Here are 5 tips to find singles for marriage online.

1. A picture is worth a thousand words. This is most certainly true when it comes to trying to find singles for marriage online. You want to choose a picture that shows you at your best without appearing to be too posed. Also, the more pictures you have the better, that way they can get a feel for who you are.

2. A catchy headline will help reel them in. When you have only seconds to catch someone’s eye, you need something that compels them to click on your profile. Try a phrase that isn't already being used in dozens of profiles. If you want to stand out, avoid overused headlines like "Looking For Mr. Right" or "Nice Guy Looking for Love."

3. Grammar and punctuation matter. As much as we like to think that we should be loved for our inner beauty, grammar matters. You are trying to show your best self and for many the way your profile is constructed is just as important as what it says. It just takes a minute to make sure that all your sentences are capitalized and words spelled correctly.

4. Show, don’t tell. It’s very easy, to describe yourself without actually backing it up. If you are funny do not just say you are, show you are. Tell a joke, be specific. You like to travel? Post a picture from a trip you took.

5. Relax. Don't be in too big of a hurry, you may not find the one right away, but just have fun. You are much more likely to find the one if you are not putting so much emphasis on each person you meet and when you meet the one you will know.

While there are other tips and strategies for improving your chance to find singles for marriage online, these five tips are some of the most important. They will help you to stand out above the rest and get you on your way to meeting the man or woman with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.

7 Tips On How To Text Flirt Effectively

Dawg — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 20:34:42 +0000

Texting (or text messaging) is becoming very popular these days. In fact, there is a special language of abbreviations that helps keep the messages to the one hundred and sixty characters limit. Flirting is an age-old art that never goes out of style. Knowing how to text flirt is important for today's fast-paced, high-tech, world. Here are seven tips that may help you find success with text messages.

1. Know why you are sending a message. Flirting usually (but not always) means that you do not know someone very well, but you would like to know them better. Keep this in mind when you think of what you want to say. For example, when you want someone to ask you out, give them a reason. You might mention a particular movie that is playing. There is a good chance that the other person will ask you to see it with him or her.

2. Always be yourself, as you can never be anything but what you are. This means, not to do a lot of online research on exactly what to say to someone. If you really want to know this person better, then let them get familiar with the real you. After all, that is whom they will be spending more time with. However, borrowing a cute message or two is okay but try to give it a personal spin.

3. Write your text, and then edit it, and after that, edit it again. The purpose of editing is to make something shorter. When your message is well thought out and condensed, it can have more power than something simply typed out in a short amount of time.

4. Refrain from asking questions. Statements have a better impact on people than questions. For example, when you ask someone what they are currently doing, that is not going to stir much emotion. However, if you tell someone that they look "hot" today, that can have an impact on their day, and they may remember you.

5. Know the language. Take the time to understand the basic concepts of texting people. However, do not go too far. It is fine to use common expressions like "LOL" or "CYA", but refrain from things like "BTDT" or "BYTM", because not everyone may know that these things mean, "been there done that" and, "better you than me". Do not assume that the other person knows everything.

6. Always put the other person first. This is a basic rule for any kind of relationship. Most people are in love with the sound of their own name. There is nothing wrong with that, it is simply human nature. For example, if you are a male named "Greg" and you are seeking the attention of a female named "Karen". It is always better to send a message like "Karen and Greg 4E", than to send "Greg and Karen 4E". However, if you are Karen, choose the latter expression. This difference may be subtle, but subtleties can be very important in relationships.

7. Do not take the whole thing too seriously. Being too serious can suck the fun out of anything. Try to send jokes or funny messages, and if you cannot think of anything, look online for short funny quotes. This person may become addicted to the amusing quotes that you send each day, and then you will know how to text flirt effectively.

Do Not Ask How To Be The Girl Every Guy Wants: The Question Will Only Distract You

Dawg — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 12:00:04 +0000

What women nowadays fail to recognize is that men know what they want, and a girl who loves drama is not exactly included on their list. If you want to attract TRUE love, you need to bring yourself to the relationship. Whether you are in between relationships or not dating at all, the best thing to do is to be yourself. Don't ask how to be the girl every guy wants. Don't spend your time obsessing on how to get a guy to want you or asking "What do men want in a woman?" Those questions will lead you to become manipulative, a thoroughly unattractive trait. You need to be the girl that the right guy wants, and for that you need to embrace some life philosophies to enhance not just your love life but yourself.

1. Do the things you love, starting now.

Are you declining your friends invitations for everything from trips down to even bar-hopping, waiting to find the man of your dreams first? Are you pining away in a tower waiting for a knight in shining armor to come and rescue you? Bad move. Knights can find plenty of damsels who are out enjoying themselves, and frankly, they would rather spend time with them. At least, the out-and-about damsels have shown they know how to enjoy life.

2. Dress for yourself, not for men.

Appearance is important, but it is too easy to make it your sole focus. Are you dressing for guys, with revealing tops and skirts? Are you always checking your reflection in a mirror? Understand this: you are not presenting a guy a still photograph of yourself. He sees you in motion. He will see if you are uncomfortable, anxious, and self-conscious, and security, confidence and comfort in being yourself is a lot more attractive. The important thing is not who he would like to see in a photo, but who he would like to be with. Be comfortable and enjoying yourself, and he will want to feel that way too. 3. Being single serves as relationship training. Many girls think having a boyfriend will be the highlight of their life. That's a mindset that will make you feel anxious rather than at peace. Instead, work out WHAT makes you happy instead of WHO. Use the present to explore your self. Find out what makes you laugh, cry, satisfied and excited. Only on your own can you figure out what you really wanted -- not through somebody else. Try to explore the world, go to an Asian backpacking tour with your best friend and you will realize you wanted to discover the world first before anything else. You must bring yourself to a relationship. How can you, until you have something to bring?

4. Throw out that "The One" belief

Are you armed with a list of requirements, looking for Mr. Right? Remember, job interviews are no fun, for neither the interviewer nor the interviewee. Also remember, in hiring, that unless you start with the candidate you secretly intend to hire and write the job requirements for him, nobody matches them perfectly. You'll have more fun, and more success, if you are open to serendipity. Relax and have fun.

5. Make it your own

Don't ask how to be the girl every guy wants. "Be yourself." This old saying still hold true until today. Who cares if you snort while laughing or say something wrong? It is better to be bubbly and be a slightly goofy version rather than the blank-faced not-you with nothing to give in a conversation.

Making a guy fall in love doesn't take an expert. Worrying about how to be the girl every guy wants will only distract you. You need to be the girl the right guy wants, and the right guy is one who wants you yourself as you truly are. Try the tips listed above and you'll surely capture his heart.

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You

Dawg — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 13:00:00 +0000

Noticing if a guy is interested in you is not always easy. Sure, there are guys out there who are blatantly obvious in their interest. Women are thankful for them. It takes the stress off wondering how much effort you should put into wooing said guys. Then, we have the guys who are more subtle. Yes, they have their advantages too. However, you may not know how to tell if a guy likes you, which makes wooing these subtle men a little more complicated. Not to worry. Even the most reserved guy gives off signs when he is into a woman.

If a guy is interested in you, he will do one of two things. If he is confident, he will make eye contact with you and smile at you more often than necessary. Smile back at him. If he is not confident, he will be shy around you. However, you may catch him looking at you when he thinks you are not looking. If that happens, look back at him and smile. Nothing sparks romance like a well-aimed smile.

When a woman is interested in guy, she wants to touch him. That is the nature of romance. The same goes for guys. Therefore, if a guy seems to want to touch you when you are near him, chances are he is interested in you. After all, it is nearly impossible to resist touching something that you want. On the other hand, some guys are just touchy-feely. If you notice that the guy you are curious about is touchy-feely with other women around you, you may want to wait for a more definitive signal.

Instead of looking for love in all the wrong places, look for a guy who is interested in you. If you are unsure how to tell if a guy likes you, use the above tips to find guys who are receptive, if not head over heels. Why expend effort on men who never expressed interest? Save your romancing skills for men who touch your arm and look into your eyes when they talk to you. This way, all you have to do is look and touch back. Well, maybe a well-placed laugh or compliment won't hurt.

10 Great Ways to Text Your Way Into a Date

Dawg — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 14:45:07 +0000

Text messaging has become a great part of daily life and society, comprising of most of today’s conversations. There are many people that even pursue love through their SMS abilities, using text messages to woo someone and get a date. SMS dating has become a rising fad in the dating scene, with many people finding great pickup lines to get that date they really want. There are many men and women that use this method to get a date, often because they are able to hide behind the text, saving them from any possible embarrassment of a rejection. When it comes to texting a pickup line, there are really 10 great ways to text your way into a date, with lines that can really catch someone’s attention, sometimes more so than if it was said.

Save my number baby, it’s you I want. This may be a bit cheesy to some, but when it comes in a text message from someone you have been crushing on, this can be a great pickup line to see. This won’t exactly sweep you off your feet, but will show the intention of someone who likes you, so think how it will do for you.
I’m holding my breath until you text back. This is just a simple message that shows their texts are important to you and that you are really interested. This could be a bad thing to do, however, if they aren’t interested, as you may never take a breath again.
I love your texts, as they come from your heart and not your mouth. This is just sweet and shows the other person that you enjoy their real conversation that is void of any other things that could take your interest over the things they have to say. If you are really interested in the other person and they you, you will be getting a great deal of words from the heart from now on.
I got your ringtone saved as the only love song I know. The ringtone of someone you contact and you are interested in today has become a big deal. People usually respond to advances as their ringtone indicates, as a ringtone tells everyone who is calling. This text pickup line shows that you have put them in a great position in your contacts.
Every time I get your texts, I imagine you hear talking just so I can hear your voice. This is a very sweet pickup line that will show the other person that you are seeing them in your head while you text them, which is a great honor in the name of love. Anyone who is anyone will fall head over heels for this text message.
I’m going to send an address, meet me there at 8. This is setting the date, and the only thing they are going to respond is “ok” or “I can’t”, either one giving you a clear indication of their feelings for you. Many people, however, will be enthralled by the mystery of where you want to meet, finding it spontaneous and exciting, and very well worth the travel.
Put me in your contacts under “your boo”. This is just cute, and any guy that is willing to send this is worth a girl’s time. Although this would be a bit pushy for a girl to text, men can have their way with the SMS message; giving it a try with all those girls they are interested in a date with.
I was thinking about you and thought this text would have to do until I see you again. This is just a really charming way to get a date with anyone, as they will surely feel special from this text. Why? Anyone who gets this text is going to feel on top of the world because it is one of the reasons texting has become such a hot topic today, having to text someone you can’t see at that time.
I’m sending you a link to my heart if you are willing to send one back. This is one of the sweetest things to send anyone you are interested in dating, mostly because you are giving them the free choice to show their interest or just brush you off. There are many people that will appreciate that from someone who wants them to date them.
Every time your text comes, my heart skips a beat. This is another sweet way to tell someone that you are really interested, so interested in fact that you are losing breath over it. If he or she is smart, they will set a date a.s.a.p. before someone else is getting these great texts.

There are many reasons why texting is so popular, and one reason is the freedom you get with SMS dating today. You can throw the cheesiest pickup lines out there and if they aren’t well received, just blame it on your friend, as no one can see you anyway.

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What Men Don’t Like About Women: Are You Driving Him Away?

Dawg — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 12:24:15 +0000

Are you a single woman looking for someone to love? It might sound so desperate, but this is merely a fact of the real world since everyone needs to be loved. You are probably asking how to make a guy want you more, but lets take a look at the other side of the question. Rather than seeking answers to "What do men want in a woman?" let's look at what men DON'T like about women, things that may be preventing you from getting what you want. After all, women often have some traits that men dislike. Most men don't want to deal with all the issues of women. So in order to avoid turning guys off, or worse getting ditched by the man you're dating, you need to know what men don't like about women.

1. Complaints. Men get irritated by hearing women complain about everything. This usually results in a big fight, accusations, and everything getting more complicated.

2. Demands. Men are annoyed by demanding women, especially when those demands are uncalled for. Even though they are committed, it doesn't mean that they enjoy being nagged all the time.

3. Conceit. This gets into their nerves. Confidence is far different from conceit. Conceited women are often intimidating because they seem so full of themselves. Men will figure these women will demand a lot simply for the privilege of spending time with them.

4. Drama. Guys are tired of drama. Your life is not a television show. Not everything should be blown out of proportion.

5. Questions. Men are irritated with lots of questions being thrown by women. Even if you want your guy to tell you everything, do not force him to share things that he is not comfortable talking about. It's too much like you're his mommy, and he is a little boy. A big part of a boy becoming a man is getting away from his mother's domination.

6. Unappreciative. Compliment a guy for his accomplishments. Overdoing it will not be a good idea either, but a little appreciation will make him happy. Success is important to guys.

7. Pretender. Men know when you are lying. They also know when you are being natural and true to yourself and when you are just pretending. Don't try to fool them. They have a good sense for it.

8. Criticisms. Most women are good critics, and men don't like that habit. They don't want to be criticized nor judged. And one big thing to know about men -- never get into their own business.

9. Control freak. Men do not want to spoil things, so they leave good things alone. Women love to control everything, and it makes men anxious.

10. Indecision. Once men have decided about something, there is no turning back. As for women, "it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind." They decide quickly and then change it over and over again. Women are always undecided about everything even in small things. This really irritates men.

The differences between men and women often result in a fight. Now that you know what men don't like about women, you can be aware of your old habits and try to avoid doing them. You may not have all of these characteristics, but knowing them might be a good help. Winning a man's heart could be a challenge, but once he falls in love, he will find it hard to get out of it.