Dating use to be uncomplicated. We knew exactly what the night held, a pretty good idea of expectations and we just needed to be interesting and endearing to our date. There are no more boxes of candy, no more flowers, a bow tie and a nice smile.

We’ve upped the ante and the bar is set so high, we’re hesitant to even go out on a date.

Dating is a social or affectionate appointment with hopes of getting to know each other better; trying to find your compatible soul mate. Dates used to be thoughtfully arranged by a third party, a family member or close family friend. Today, more often than not, we meet suitors in trendy bars, online and matchmaking services.

Today’s concept of dating has changed. It has traditionally been a man’s responsibility to pay for the date; the practice of Going Dutch, which is splitting the costs, has now emerged.

Traditional dating activities:

1. Gentleman informs lady he will be stopping by to visit her. They dress up or dress casual and sit in front room and chat. Upon departing, man asks for a second date the next week and gives woman kiss on the cheek.

2. Gentleman arrives with box of candy and/or flowers in hand and takes woman out to a movie or fancy dinner. Upon arriving back to woman’s home, gentleman tells woman how he enjoys her company, asks for another date in the future and gives woman kiss on cheek.

3. On the third date, gentleman picks woman up at her home by walking to front door, delivering yet another bouquet of flowers and continuing on their way. After date, they arrive back to woman’s home; gentleman gets a kiss on lips from the woman.

Today’s dating activities:

1. Guy calls woman on cell phone and informs her he’s a block away and will be there in 5 minutes to visit. Upon arriving, woman invites him in and after a casual chat, they might begin kissing.

2. On the second date, gentleman arrives, calls on cell phone to inform woman he’s waiting outside and to hurry up so they won’t miss the movie. Upon arriving back to her home, they begin kissing and probably will bypass the front room and go straight to the bedroom.

3. On the third date, I believe they are boyfriend and girlfriend now, if there is a third date? No flowers, no candy, they never made it to a fancy restaurant.

Now, this is not true for everyone. The scenarios will change; however, dating activities have definitely changed. Everyone has his/her own views and concepts of dating but we all seem to be to be in a mad rush to find The Right One.

Dating site Lavalife.com is one perhaps the top dating sites out of Canada. The following article tells the story of this dating site darned well, and I think it’s a good read:

Lavalife keeps its dating website fresh with new features

Lavalife, a Canadian tech success story that has grown to be one of the hottest online dating businesses in the world is putting 20 years of experience and research into making online dating better and safer.

What began in Toronto 20 years ago as a telephone classified service and morphed into a telephone and Internet dating service has given itself a new “skin” with more features than ever before, say Lavalife’s Lori Miller and Stephanie Barrington.

“We were the first ones in Canada to launch web personals and we grew our customer base from zero to more than a million in Canada alone,” says Miller, who is the company’s dating and singles expert. “We’re one of the first to launch the web-cam feature and now it’s morphed into video.”

Essentially, as part of your profile on Lavalife, you can now upload as many as six videos of yourself, which you can then allow suitors to view if they’re trying to get a better idea of who you are and whether or not they want to ask you out on a date.

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Success

Story from Lavalife Dating Site:

Hey everybody, it CAN happen. Just hang in there and be open to what comes. I would regularly receive smiles from women in other countries and usually I would ignore them. Not to be rude, just that I figured nothing could come of it. One day I received a smile from this beautiful woman in the Philippines. For some reason I read her profile. I saw she was online, so I invited her to chat. I thought she was amazing and we ended up chatting every day for seven months. I made my first trip to the Philippines to meet her… a-year-and-a-half, hundreds of dollars in phone bills and two trips to the Philippines later, we were married. I’ve recommended Lavalife to all my single friends. Orange, CA

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A lot has been written about writing online dating profiles. But most of it has been geared towards heterosexual profiles. Here’s an article on profile writing, written specially for gay men:

OUT AND ONLINE: CRACKING THE CODE TO GAY PROFILES
By NICK BURNS

July 1, 2007 — When I first discovered online dating, I felt like I had won the lottery. As a young gay man who grew up in a small conservative town, I found it hard to meet potential love interests by bumping into them at Barnes & Noble or waiting in line at the DMV. Online, there are tons of prospects-but the sheer quantity came with its own problems. How could I separate the guys I’d really like from those who weren’t my speed? Sure, there were photos and write-ups explaining who they were and what they were looking for, but I soon realized that these profiles didn’t always match the person once I met him face to face. Some guys would say they were looking for a long-term relationship when they were really out for no-strings-attached sex; others weren’t entirely out of the closet, which brought its own set of complications. These experiences made me wonder: Is there a way to check out someone’s profile and get to the truth of whether they’d be a great match? To find the answer, I consulted a dating expert for tips on reading between the lines. The advice below has helped me immensely, as I hope it’ll work for anyone else in search of the right man among many.

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There are two main opposing complaints, or problems, about online dating. One “problem” which many wish they had is “too much success” meaning getting too many responses to your ad.

The other problem, and a real one too, is mediocre or less than mediocre success. Check out the following excerpts from a help site that exemplify this “duality”.

“Three months ago, I joined an online dating service. I’ve been getting a great response — too great. I’m getting mixed up about who is who….”

“Believe me, I’m not a bad looker (my picture is posted); I’m educated; and I like to do things… but for me it’s (online dating)just not working…”

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Here’s an interesting news article and update about Lavalife dating site:

Lavalife moves to connect older singles in prime time

Canada’s largest online dating service aims to pitch shared interests at a growing market, writes Kristin Goff.

Lavalife Corp., which offers an online dating service for single men and women, for gays and those seeking “intimate” relationships, may soon help older singles find a friend who shares an interest in flower arranging.

Canada’s largest online dating service is testing a new site, lavalifeprime.com as a place for people over age 45 to pair up for dates or friendship…

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It used to be that one would feel embarassed to tell even his/her closest confidant that he/she was even thinking of dating online. How things have changed. This article tells it extremely well, I think.

Is Online Dating A Household Word?
by Seana Mulcahy

I remember a few years ago, my mom whispered the words, “Online dating.” It was her answer to how a friend of ours met her boyfriend. Our friend was divorced with grown kids. She spent the bulk of her time working and with her family. She wasn’t in the dating scene at all. I always remember hoping she’d meet someone because she is such a great lady.

One day I was at her house for a visit. She was beaming. Without a blink of an eye, she announced to us that she was in love and we just HAD to meet this guy. She said she’d never had such a connection with anyone. When my ultra-conservative mother asked where she’d met him, our friend bellowed, “ONLINE!” My mom’s jaw dropped…

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After a couple of emails, Maureen and I decided to live on the edge and meet for a glass of wine, which got delayed by some unexpected family problems.

I eventually went to over to Maureen’s place of employment just to say hello. After a quick meeting, we decided to meet for lunch two days later. Our first lunch date was great. We talked about our interests, our families, and what we were looking for in life. Afterward, we walked back to my car to take her back to work. It was there we shared our first kiss, and from there we never looked back. We began dating each other exclusively, and after a few short months fell deeply in love. Our families both accepted our new partners, and everything fell into place just as we believe God had planned it.

On July 15, 2005, Maureen’s daughter Casey was married. The very next day I proposed to Maureen, and she accepted. On November 12, 2005, we exchanged vows in a lovely garden wedding in Huntington Beach, CA.

We have been growing in love each day, and still we are amazed that we were so blessed to find each other.

Thank you Match.com, for bringing us together!

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An interesting and well-written story about one woman’s online dating encounters. Especially for those who expect online dating to be a quick fix for all their romantic problems. Read on.

118 online dates, for those keeping score at home

By Angela Benfield

After jettisoning the perfect Mr. Wrong, I was ready, at the ripe young age of 39, to throw in the towel on finding even a slightly unperfect Mr. Right. Then, a good friend, one with a shiny new beau, encouraged me to get modern and try online dating. When I hesitated, she pointed out how easily the computer helps separate the dudes from the duds. OK, maybe I was up for just one more dive into the dating pool.

Turns out, that pool is Olympic-sized. The U.S. online dating industry is worth about $500 million and is expected to climb 9 percent a year. And according to revenuetoday.com, there are 33 million U.S. adult singles online and open to pursuing a relationship. Reasoning that more than a handful were in the Greater New York environs, I started to investigate.

It was clear from the get-go I was going to have to revamp my date-and-mate routine. My orientation was strictly bar scene pickups…

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For those who doubt that online dating works, here’s an interesting piece of news about a Jewish girl who once shared your doubts. An interesting reading for members of the Jewish community who at times find themselves out-numbered by other communities.

Ukrainian Jewish Online Dating Helps Small, Scattered Community

By Yulianna Vilkos
JTA

KIEV, Ukraine – A few months ago, Natalia Loshakova did not believe in online dating.

After all, the Jewish Dnepropetrovsk native has many friends, and is “not desperate,” she says.

It still feels awkward, says Loshakova, 22, to check her e-mail first thing in the morning, and she’s not used to looking forward to the phone calls she gets from the man she met on www.mazeltov.org.ua, a new Dnepropetrovsk-based Web site for Jewish singles.

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Do you consider yourself rather good-looking? Do you consider yourself above average in relation to other singles? Have you ever considered online dating?

If you answered yes to all three questions, I have good news! You may be qualified to join HotEnough.org, a new online dating Web site. But wait – don’t bank on becoming a member that easily. Before you can join, the other members must vote on you to make sure that you are, indeed, “hot enough” to join.

That’s right, this is one dating Web site that is intentionally trying to attract a certain group of singles: the attractive kind.

Here’s the site description:

“Attractive, fit singles like you deserve an above average dating pool and the leading online dating sites just don’t meet that standard. Online dating sites are a great way to meet that future soul mate – much better than trying to make a connection at a bar or club. Yet, on most leading dating sites, it simply takes too long to sift through the swarm of photos, e-mails and teases to find a compatible match.

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