One of the biggest, if not the biggest, concerns for single people worldwide is finding love.  Along with “lose weight” or “live a healthy lifestyle”, “find a new love” is one of the top New Year’s resolutions. And just as frequently broken or simply unreached.

Here are 10 steps on how to find new love:

1. Are you ready for love? Most people try to find a new love as soon as a break-up happens, even before the healing has begun. What they are seeking, consciously or unconsciously, is a rebound person. Rarely can a rebound person turn to be a true love. Give yourself some time.

2. Be proactive: Once you’re sure that you are ready for a relationship, don’t just sit back and wait for fate to bring that guy or gal to you. Go out and look. It doesn’t matter where you go, just go. Love can be found at the (amusement) park, at church, at the bar… anywhere. But it will not come seeking you out in your office or home.

3. Cast a wide net: Don’t limit yourself to traditional ways of meeting other people. The widest net of single people trying to find new love is in the worldwide web. What is better to know than that everybody in a particular dating site is there for the same reason as you? Sign up with a good dating service and start meeting other singles.

4. Don’t be miserable: Yes, you may be feeling down and lonely, but don’t let it show. Be positive. Hold your head high and stand up straight. Smile. A positive attitude can be contagious, and sooner or later someone will notice.

5. Start that conversation: Whether online or in real life there has to be the person to start. This goes to you women too. Online it may be as simple as sending a “flirt” or instant message. In real life you have to find a conversation starter in an instant or risk losing the opportunity. The most common starter, it seems, is “do you come here often?”  It’s a little tired but, hey, if it works why not!

6. Show interest: Back in college I had a big crush a certain girl. She was beautiful; a real work of art. She was also smart and had a great sense of humor. I never attempted to let her know that I was interested in her (who wasn’t anyway?) for in my mind she could never be interested in me. Years later, too late to get together, I came to find out that she too had a crush on me. I was scared of her. And she did what a “lady” was expected to do; act like I was invisible. If only one of us had shown some interest…

7. Be loveable: Actually that’s from a quotation from Ovid, “To be loved, be lovable”. Identify the things that might make you difficult to love. You don’t have to become the person you are not, but changing some of your ways might help if you have a tendency to break up with significant others. Identify your faults or weakness and try to correct them.

8. Be patient: “The art of love… is largely the art of persistence”, said Albert Ellis. This is both true when looking for a new love as well as keeping one when found. Don’t rush.

9. Attend events: Especially during summer time, there are events many for virtually every interest imaginable. Flower shows, car shows etc, these are always full of singles from all walks of life. And better still, if you have a passion for what is going on at the event, you could meet someone that shares the same passion. This serves the dual purpose of bringing together people of similar interest as well as offering something you can both talk about. By the way, this is another advantage of online dating sites; bringing together people with common interests.

10. Sign up with a good dating site: Where can you find lots of available singles all seeking to find a new love and happy to let the world know this? Online of course! Sign up with a good, reputable dating site and start making contact with members that interest you. Be sure to sign up with a real paid dating site, not a social networking or free site, as this is where serious singles go.

“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

- Morrie Schwartz

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