January 22, 2010
Speed Dating Tips – Getting the Most Out of a Speed Dating Event
Speed dating is not without its challenges, one of the biggest being the limited time available to make an impression. This article offers speed dating tips that will hopefully help you get over this and other hurdles that come with this method of finding a mate.
In most speed dating events, you have about 8 minutes to make an impression. This is the reason it is sometimes also known as the 8 minute date. Depending on the organizer and number of participants, the allotted time could be slightly more or less. Your objective is to squeeze the most out of this very limited time, without feeling pressurized.
The first thing to do even before arriving at the event is take care of yourself. You want to look your best without being ostentatious or pretentious. Do dress to kill: we humans are still very visual (more so the male of the species but that’s subject of another article).
Remember you are competing for the same single(s) with everybody else of your gender in that event, assuming it is a heterosexual event (the same goes for gay and lesbian events). You want to put your best foot forward, if you will excuse the cliché.
Ever heard the phrase “if you have, it flaunt it”? This applies to speed dating events as to other real life scenarios. Attempt to bring out the best of yourself in a tasteful way. For women, showing some cleavage may be okay but don’t show too much. For men (women too), it is okay to show the results of all those hours spent in the gym, but please don’t show up in a tank top or muscle T-shirt. I would never show up in a T-shirt. Some speed dating events will have a dress code anyway.
Also, try to get adequate sleep in order to be at your best, mentally and physically. Eat enough but not too much.
You should prepare your speed dating questions ahead of time. Also, have your answers ready especially for the more common, routine questions. Preparing a brief profile of yourself helps in this aspect. This will help save time, which is of great essence.
If the speed dating event is being held a long distance from your home and you have to drive, do not change right away. Why? Well, you do not want to arrive in your clothes but all crumpled up. Also, most events are held during warmer seasons and you don’t to arrive with your clothes all sweaty. Find somewhere you can change as you get closer to your destination (such as gas station rest room).
During the event, the first thing to remember is to relax. Take a deep breath, or a few of them if it helps. Picture yourself as being at ease. And have fun.
You should also maintain a positive attitude, posture and outlook. Smiling is a big part of the equation. But please do look natural; no forced or cheesy smiles and grins.
Give attention to each person you meet. In case you didn’t know you will have a chance meet each and every potential partner in the room. Naturally, there are some you will be attracted to and others not so much (or not at all).Try to give each one undivided attention for the eight or so minutes. Who knows, you might click with someone in another way, beyond the physical.
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