Roxanne didn't know if she was going to be able to go about surviving a break up with her boyfriend George.  He had been the focus of her life for over a year now.  When he said that he wanted to see other people, she thought she would die.

At first, Roxanne tried to get George back.  She wrote him love letters, phoned him a couple of times a day, and sent numerous texts.  These things seemed to drive George further away rather than bringing him back. More on Surviving a Break Up – Follow this Example

Have you just been dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend that you cared a lot about?  Is your heart broken?  Are you not sure how to move on? Here’s how to deal with a break up.

First of all, make sure that the relationship is truly over.  Sometimes people break up on the spur of the moment and regret it almost immediately.  Other times, couples just need a “breather” to get a sense of whether to move on. More on How to Deal with a Break Up When Your Heart’s Been Broken

Is there a doctor in the house?  You need help healing a broken heart.  While I might not have an M.D. degree, I can give you some advice on how to get over a break up.

First of all, you need to realize that you are a worthwhile person.  A relationship is a two way street.  If one person is no longer participating, the relationship couldn’t work.  While you might have been able to change some things, you should learn from your past mistakes, but not dwell on them.

Just because your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you does not mean that you will never be in another relationship again.  In fact, you will probably be dating again before you would guess right now.

If you are going to go about healing a broken heart, you need to be prepared to move on.  A practical and symbolic way to do this is to exchange all of the “stuff” you have of each other’s.  Anything that you don’t give back that reminds you of your ex should be thrown away or boxed up until the pain recedes.

If you owe each other any money, this is a good time to pay up.  As you can see, the idea is to close out the ties that bind.

Then, tell your ex that you don’t want to see or talk to each other for a little while.  While it is possible that you’ll be friends in the future, avoid calling, texting, and emailing each other.  Also, don’t make a point of following your ex on Facebook or MySpace.  By clearing him or her out of your system, you are better able to move on.

Part of healing a broken heart is to get back into the world as soon as possible.  This is a three step process.

First, engage with your friends and family.  Let them support you through this grieving process.  But, don’t bore them with your troubles.  Instead, try to have fun with the people you care about.

Second, engage with the world at large.  Go to the gym and work out because it will make you look and feel better.  Then, look at activities you can start up to fill your time such as a book group or a cooking class.

If at all possible, try to get involved with something larger than yourself by volunteering.  Not only does this fill up your time and take your energy, it also lifts your spirits.

Third, start to date again.  You don’t need to fall in love with the first man or woman that you meet.  Sometimes dinner is just dinner.  Plan to go out on a number of dates with different people during this time when you are “testing the waters.”  Show them a good time, but don’t feel obligated to fall in love.  Remember that a rebound relationship is rarely fun for the other person.

Healing a broken heart takes time.  But you will not be in this position forever.  You will begin to love again.

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