Roxanne didn't know if she was going to be able to go about surviving a break up with her boyfriend George.  He had been the focus of her life for over a year now.  When he said that he wanted to see other people, she thought she would die.

At first, Roxanne tried to get George back.  She wrote him love letters, phoned him a couple of times a day, and sent numerous texts.  These things seemed to drive George further away rather than bringing him back. More on Surviving a Break Up – Follow this Example

Is there a doctor in the house?  You need help healing a broken heart.  While I might not have an M.D. degree, I can give you some advice on how to get over a break up.

First of all, you need to realize that you are a worthwhile person.  A relationship is a two way street.  If one person is no longer participating, the relationship couldn’t work.  While you might have been able to change some things, you should learn from your past mistakes, but not dwell on them.

Just because your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you does not mean that you will never be in another relationship again.  In fact, you will probably be dating again before you would guess right now.

If you are going to go about healing a broken heart, you need to be prepared to move on.  A practical and symbolic way to do this is to exchange all of the “stuff” you have of each other’s.  Anything that you don’t give back that reminds you of your ex should be thrown away or boxed up until the pain recedes.

If you owe each other any money, this is a good time to pay up.  As you can see, the idea is to close out the ties that bind.

Then, tell your ex that you don’t want to see or talk to each other for a little while.  While it is possible that you’ll be friends in the future, avoid calling, texting, and emailing each other.  Also, don’t make a point of following your ex on Facebook or MySpace.  By clearing him or her out of your system, you are better able to move on.

Part of healing a broken heart is to get back into the world as soon as possible.  This is a three step process.

First, engage with your friends and family.  Let them support you through this grieving process.  But, don’t bore them with your troubles.  Instead, try to have fun with the people you care about.

Second, engage with the world at large.  Go to the gym and work out because it will make you look and feel better.  Then, look at activities you can start up to fill your time such as a book group or a cooking class.

If at all possible, try to get involved with something larger than yourself by volunteering.  Not only does this fill up your time and take your energy, it also lifts your spirits.

Third, start to date again.  You don’t need to fall in love with the first man or woman that you meet.  Sometimes dinner is just dinner.  Plan to go out on a number of dates with different people during this time when you are “testing the waters.”  Show them a good time, but don’t feel obligated to fall in love.  Remember that a rebound relationship is rarely fun for the other person.

Healing a broken heart takes time.  But you will not be in this position forever.  You will begin to love again.

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Breaking up is hard and many people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". They begin to think and philosophize about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

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This tends to be a dead end for one reason mainly: you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women get emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up. They may not even know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. While this may not be easy (for some reason we like to sit back mourn for what might have been) it's almost always good for you.

Go out, make friends, have fun, network, do things that you love to do, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect this strategy will have is that it will allow you to make steady changes in your life. It also helps in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex without getting too emotional (which clouds the thinking process).

Do you still want to her back? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is the time for a little more direct approach for getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool. You have spent enough time apart, and she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (just don't over do it) and show her that you are doing okay without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

At this point, it should be apparent whether getting back together with your ex really is meant to be. Be careful not to over-analyze things as it may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out what to do to get her back.

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