Many people seeking love, romance and companionship online ask the question, “What is the best internet dating service?”

Indeed, is there a way to determine whether or not a dating service will help you meet your long-term (or even short-term if that’s what you want) partner? More on How to Find the Best Internet Dating Service for You

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Life isn’t fair. Men, it seems, get all the breaks. You’ve devoted all of your 20’s to getting your career off the ground. Not that you haven’t been dating… you have, but not seriously.

Now here you are… 30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight. You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have a precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or its lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys – some of them are – but none of them is your soul mate. What’s a girl to do?

Consider online dating. You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that “someone” that will be right for you. Maybe he will live in the same city you do…maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

“Is online dating safe”, you ask. “Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes in assorted shapes and sizes?”  The answer is, no they aren’t. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment.

Use the same caution that you would when meeting any stranger. Don’t give out your real name, address or phone number until you feel safe doing so. Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Give it a try. Mr. Right might be a few mouse clicks away.

The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle.

Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

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Here in the US, we’re just a few hours away from ushering in the New Year, 2008. Those in the Western coast are closer, those in the Pacific Islands such as Hawaii even more so.

As we reflect on our lives during the year 2007, we cannot help but think of the things that did not go our way, or that we could have done better. It is just human nature, to think more of the things that don’t are not right than those which are.

On the positive side, it is the things that we did not do well, or well enough that inspire us to do better next time. This is the basic reason for making all those New Year resolutions: to make an improvement. And it is good.

I’m not against New Year resolutions, but to me everyday should be a new beginning. Most New Year resolutions get broken somewhere along the way. But once one decides that every day is a new beginning, you can always pick up from where you left off, or start something new altogether. All the same, don’t let this be an excuse for not sticking to your resolutions.

No dating luck in 2007? My hope and wish is that he/she comes into your life in 2008 (or even sooner). Acceptance that you do need someone in your life is the very first step towards attracting him/her to you and you to him/her.

The next step is to take action. Be proactive. Go out there and meet people. Sign up with a reputable dating site if you have not already done so.

If you have signed up with a dating service, ask yourself if it is the right one for you. You see, some specialty dating site might help you get the right person than general dating sites. There are dating sites for serious or casual dating. There are sites for senior (or mature) dating, for dog lovers, bike lovers, gay or lesbian dating (the list is endless).

Maybe all you need is to tweak you personal profile. Reading up on the subject might help.

And above all, don’t give up. Love is too good a thing to give up on. The right person is out there. You just need a way to meet her/him.

Wishing you a most happy and prosperous New Year, filled with love.

Sincerely,

David